The Art of Supporting

Good evening!! It’s been too long since I’ve posted! The topic that’s been on my heart lately has been, “Support.” Lets jump right in!

We live in a world where so many people are entrepreneurs which is amazing!!! God has blessed so many of us with business ideas and opportunities! With the rise of entrepreneurs has also caused a rise of critics; social media has taken criticism to another level. People have become internet experts and have opinions about everything you do and they don’t have the expertise to advise you on your craft/passion.

On top of the criticism and opinions, we experience a lack of support from those closest to us. Some people support those that are “close” to them privately and not publicly but they support people who they don’t know; funny how that works.

Do we feel that if we support someone, wish them well, purchase their products or share their post on social media, that we are doing something wrong? Do we feel that if we support someone else that we won’t shine? Or is it that we don’t feel that they are worthy of being supported? I’m not sure what it is, but we need to support each other more. For some reason, we feel that our criticism or lack of support should come before genuine support from the heart.

What is in our heart? What drives us to support someone or not support someone? What drives us to tell someone what is wrong before what is right? Everything is a heart issue. Everything. Encourage those closest to you. Support them. Buy their products, speak highly of them publicly and privately. Don’t be the person who seems them post something amazing on social media and you always send them a “private” text stating, “Congratulations,” and never share their post publicly or comment on their post; but you post and share everyone else’s post.

What people need most right now is prayer, support and encouragement. There is nothing wrong with providing helpful criticism to someone in your circle, especially if it is solicited. Use your discernment on when to give advice/criticism; it’s not always needed. We must understand that most of time it is not always our place to point out something wrong. Amen? Amen.

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

1 Thessalonians 5:11 “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (NLT)

Psalm 31:24 “So be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord!” (NLT)

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Self Made…

Hey guys!!

Hope everyone is have an amazing Sunday!! I wanted to post a quick blog about the idea of being self made that I hear so often. Lets jump right in!

The definition of self made means made by oneself and having become successful or rich by one’s own efforts. I don’t know about you, but this definition sounds crazy to me! LOL I never want to come off like I did anything by myself. The idea of being self made is pompous and a lie. Everything that we have and everything that we are able to do is because of God AND the help that He sends us.

I hate that we live in a world where the words BOSS and self made are used as much as we drink water or go to sleep at night. How could we ever think that we did anything by ourselves? The crazy part is that most people don’t use this term lightly or jokingly. I actually know some people who think they are in the position they are in because of everything they did right and because of their own hard work/efforts. I’ve sat across from people who have shared their success stories with me on several occasions and they never mentioned God….

I’m going to say this and leave this right here…take it for whatever it is worth to you…..Know that everything you have and everything that you are is because God smiled on you and chose to bless you. He didn’t bless you because you were so good and because you were so sweet and so hard working….H simply blessed you because he is that kind of friend. He cares for you that much. There is nothing that you can do to earn God’s goodness towards you and His favor on your life.

We can’t afford to allow society’s view of what success is to blind us from who is behind all of our success. We must always keep our mind on Jesus. Our goal should not be to be self made but our goal should always be of service to others and to give God credit for the things he has done forever and always.

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusted in thee.” Isaiah 26:3 (KJV)

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Friends!…How Many of Us Have Them?

Hi guys!

It’s been a minute since I blogged so I thought I would check in :). The importance of friendship has been on my heart heavy lately. Lets jump right in!

The term friend is used so lightly nowadays. We call each other sister, brother and friend just as fast as we say “hello,” and “goodbye.” Why is that? We expect more from people who we barely know and make them apart of lives when maybe they should not be there at all. We must understand the difference between a situationship (LOL Yes! situationship), friendship and an acquaintance.

A situationship is when you are “friends” with someone based on your environment. You work with them or go to church with them. You are around them due to your situation but once you are outside of the situation, you don’t hear from them as much. Now….situationships can sometimes turn into real friendships but most of the time, they may not and that is okay. It’s just important to understand the difference between a friendship and a situationship. If you are out of that situation and you don’t hear from them and they are always cancelling on you when you reach out, it may not be what you think it is.

A friendship lasts no matter the situation. They can move out of the state/country and you still keep in touch and always try to make time for each other when you all are both in the same city. You check on each other and SUPPORT each other. You support each other by praying for each other, checking on each other, showing up to events that you can go to, you like pictures on social media and share each other’s images on social medical to show your support-You support them publicly and not just privately. What I mean by that is, you buy tickets to their events and go instead of just liking it on Instagram and not going. You actually post on their page how proud you are of them and how you are excited for them instead of just sending your message via text or a critique about what they could have done better.

An acquaintance is someone that you see whenever you see LOL You may have met them at a networking event. They are cool and you always speak when you see them. You may have even met them for lunch to discuss business or future goals and partnerships; but that’s about it-remember that.

Listen! There is nothing wrong with either of these three relationships but the key is to know who belongs where and to not get them confused. I’ve even made the mistake of putting people in the wrong categories and chile…..it was a mess! LOL Be encouraged and ask God to send you divine connected relationships. Because everyone needs a good friend and they are so hard to come by! Trust me!

“There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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The Impact of Not Forgiving……PT. 2

Hey there!! For some reason, this topic of forgiveness has been on my heart lately. I posted a blog a few nights ago regarding the “other side of forgiveness.” If you have not read it, I suggest that you read it!! :). This will be a short blog, so lets jump right in!

It dawned on my today that God is not pleased and it saddens His heart that His people have such a hard time in the area of forgiveness. Think about it. How many times have you heard someone say, “Oh, I don’t fool with that person anymore,” for one reason or another. OR, we say things like “we ended on bad terms and haven’t spoken in years.”

I understand that sometimes, we have tried to reconcile with someone and they won’t allow reconciliation and they won’t respond to you and they don’t want to discuss issues; this can be very hurtful. All you can do in this case is pray for yourself (for healing) and pray for that person and move on.

BUT, we know those cases where maybe two people are being stubborn and as a result, a relationship or friendship is lost……this is what I feel makes God’s heart sad. For example, When a marriage is broken because of pride and not being forgiving. When a friendship is broken. When a mother/daughter relationship is broken. Ultimately, God’s purpose was not fulfilled. What I mean by that he when he calls two people together in marriage and they divorce ultimately over pride and not forgiving each other, they separate but also God’s purpose and plan in their marriage separates.

When someone just cuts off a friendship or relationship and their is heart hardened, the purpose is taken out of that. I believe there are needs that need to be met but will not be met because bridges have been burned from people that we truly needed because we didn’t handle their hearts right and we chose not to forgive…..This is just food for thought. Forgiveness is bigger than us.

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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The other side of forgiveness…

Hi guys! I hope everyone is having a blessed week! I wont be before you long, but something dropped in my Spirit today. Lets jump right in!!

So often, I hear people talk about FORGIVENESS. I am fully on board with forgiveness and Lord knows that I’ve had my share of situations where I had to forgive people and HELP people who hurt my heart in a way that can’t fully be articulated…..But it dawned on me, what if I was on the other side? Like what if I am the one who did the wrong doing and just decided not to apologize. Okay. Cool….But not apologizing could be causing more awkwardness and tension than necessary. And truth be told, it is causing that person to possibly hold on to something longer…..in a way it could be stalling forgiveness because of the hardness of another person’s heart.

So…true story….

Many years ago, I had a HEART BREAKING EXPERIENCE. I remember how mad I was and how betrayed I felt. I was so incredibly hurt to say the least. For a while I wouldn’t speak to that person and would flat out ignore them! Terrible, I know! BUT! Chile….I was just hurt. BUT! That person (sooner than later) wrote me a letter and took me out to dinner and was genuinely sorry. From that point on, I accepted the apology and the tension lifted and we never had another issue.

Now…..what if that person would have let the issue linger and not right the wrong? Yes, with prayer and time I would have gotten over it but how much longer would that situation, awkwardness and hurt have lingered?

The bottom line is this, we can help with someone forgive us if we are willing to own up to what we did wrong and sincerely apologize because lets keep 100! People and your heart knows when a person is genuine or not. Also, when we apologize to people, we have to stop saying, “I apologize for everything.” What is everything? We must pick up the phone and apologize and NOT APOLOGIZE via text!! Whew! LOL We have to stop doing that people of God.

At the end of day, regardless if someone else apologizes or not, we have to pray about and move on AND ultimately forgive them; this I know….Trust me! If there is someone you need to apologize to, call them tonight and own whatever the wrong was and be sincere…..and if you are on the opposite end of the situation, and you never receive an apology; its okay. I have learned to pray and PRAY FOR MYSELF AND FOR THAT PERSON. This is difficult to do but it must be done in order to move on with life.

Matthew 5:44 “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you.” (NLT)

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Running Away From Yourself…

Hey guys!! I wanted to check in do a quick post!! I’ve had so much going on lately but this thought has been lingering in my spirit for some time now…The thought of “Running Away From Yourself” Lets just right in 🙂

As great as life can be, sometimes it can throw circumstances your way that can take your breath away, break your heart and leave you in a state of shock. Life can leave you with broken pieces and have you wondering how you got there. In the midst of confusion, sometimes I feel that the best thing (besides praying) would be for me to “get away.” Sometimes I feel like 2-3 month sabbatical from everything would be just what I need. If only I could get away to free my mind and get through whatever it is that I may be going through.

My oldest brother told me something that I won’t forget. He said, “You can never run away from your thoughts but you can do things to give yourself a break mentally.” In other words, you can do things that you enjoy and that “free your mind” from what you are currently facing and dealing with. My follow up question to him was, “But what happens when you complete what you enjoy and you are right back where you started?; with your thoughts, hurt and stress?” He said told me that all things change with time and that my situation would not always be the way that it is. Hmmm……so one major key is time.

Oddly enough, sometimes we feel that we don’t have time. When you are going through something, you want it to end immediately, especially issues with the heart. Let your heart get broken by someone you truly love and see how quickly you want that heartache to end. Heartache is one of the most painful aches you will ever experience; trust me, I know.

But, we must be hopeful that God has a plan and a purpose for us no matter how much it feels like he does not have a plan. He hears our prayers and knows when we cry. We must be encouraged that no matter what we go through, we will come out better! Always keep your head up and continue to pray; I can’t say this enough.

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Are you fasting?? Okay..shhhhhh!

Hey hey! I hope everyone had an amazing day!!!! I wanted to hop on quickly and touch on the hot topic of fasting. This has been in my Spirit to talk about since so many people are fasting with the Daniel’s Fast for 21 days. I won’t be before you long, so lets chat!!

I have fasted several times in my life for various reasons and I feel that I have always benefited from fasting. We always need to ask ourselves what is our individual purpose is for fasting. We understand the overall purpose of fasting but why do we want to fast individually. We must always ask ourselves this question with any matter concerning God. If we are fasting just because the church is fasting or because our best friend is fasting, then we have missed the point. This point leads me to social media.

If you are fasting and you let the world know, what benefit can come from that?? What you decide to do regarding your fast should be between you and Christ. Scripture states in Matthew 6:16-18 “And when you fast, don’t make it obvious, as the hypocrites do, for they try to look miserable and disheveled so people will admire them for their fasting. I tell you the truth, that is the only reward they will ever get. But when you fast, comb your hair and wash your face. Then no one will notice that you are fasting, except your Father, who knows what you do in private. And your Father, who sees everything, will reward you.” (NLT)

If our purpose in fasting is to show off for lil Jonny and lil Susie Rell how “spiritual” we are? Then that will be our exact reward; attention from lil Jonny and lil Susie Rell. We can’t heard from God because we so busy trying tell everyone that we are fasting and long we are fasting AND how tired we are by doing so. Our countenance should be at our best while fasting. Lets do a heart check and check our motives for the Lord. One thing for sure is that he knows our motives and our hearts. We can’t fake the funk with Him. Be encouraged!

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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