Hey guys!!

I hope everyone if having an amazing weekend so far! It’s 72 degrees here in Dallas and Sunny soooo….this weekend has been great so far 🙂 I wanted to hop right into our conversation about “Cherish The Day.” “Cherish The Day” is a new, HOT show on OWN Network created by the one and only, Ava DuVernay.  The main characters, Evan and Gently caught my attention immediately! Both characters are complex in their own way but yet, they choose to be in a relationship with each other; seemingly drawn towards each other by an invisible magnet that keeps them coming back to each for more….more drama, more love and many more ups and down in this thing called, LOVE. There will be a few spoilers, just FYI!

I have a few questions….


Do you think that Evan is too perfect?? Do you think it’s realistic for a guy to be this nice and fall so fast? Especially, after she left him curbside?? Lol we all remember that scene where he had to Uber back across town to get back to his car!! Initially, I thought that this character is so good!! But he is too perfect! LOL But on second thought……this should be the norm right?? A man wanting to be committed to one woman and absolutely adore and respect her is exactly what should be happening. Why is it so hard for us to believe that a guy like Evan actually exists? OR…for some of us, we believe this guy exists, but we just don’t have a clue where he might be Lol For some reason, we don’t don’t have too many examples of Even close by. AND….isn’t it crazy how our heart desires someone like Evan, but we end up with someone the complete opposite??? I think sometimes, we settle because we feel like time is ticking and we may not meet a man as good as “Evan.”But the devil is a liar!! God desires us to be with someone who loves us and treated us with respect, loyalty, honesty and unwavering support/love.

I like to live tweet during the show on Tuesdays at 9PM along with several other hundreds, even thousands of other women; most of us seem to share the same sentiment. We LOVE Evan. We are hopeful, wishful even prayerful that we will find our “Evan” one day. I just wish “Evan” was more of the norm for women. I’m sure some of us may have met an “Evan” in our lifetime but may have mishandled the relationship and no longer have that type of connection at this present moment. Some of you may even have an “Evan” in your life which is amazing!! For those of us, who are waiting…..God has someone in store for you, for me and for everyone!! You have to believe that! Even though “Evan” is a character that is played on television, there are real men out there who treat there lady with the utmost respect and would never intentionally do anything to mistreat them; they alway aim to take care of her heart; that’s important…


I absolutely love Gently’s character because it is so complex!! So many layers to peel back! At first, I was like….ummm girl! Why are you acting so funny towards Evan?? LOL But then….after further accessing her character, I realized that her upbringing has a lot to do with her trust level with people. The fact that her parents weren’t really around and she had to fend for herself much more often than she should have caused a wall to build.  Gently had to grow up faster and harder than she should have; that should not have been the case; I saw myself in her. Even though my parents were around as I grew up, I still dealt with toxic relationships with men.  I could see myself being defensive because I’m not accustomed to experiencing that type of love, that type of commitment, that type of adornment from another man that I’ve dated. I know that type of love exists but accepting that type of love is a totally different ball game. Receiving that type of love can be challenging when you’ve been disappointed so much… know?? I saw the excitement and fear she had in her eyes when he proposed. I know this feeling of excitement but then being overwhelmed because in the past, it never really lasted. How can I trust something that has constantly let me down? or put me one pedestal one day while watching me fall off the pedestal the next day….it can be tough meeting someone new when you have experienced such disappointment in the past.

What are your thoughts??

Do you feel like you are ready for the type of love you are praying for?

Is Evan too perfect? Or is he simply displaying what real love looks like when it’s well,…real.

Was Gently wrong for needing time to process her feeling regarding the engagement? Was her guard up too strong when they first met??

How are you cherishing your day?? Or the person you love? Are you soaking up every minute and appreciating it?

I love how the show shows the time line of Evan and Gently’s days…so much can happen in a day right??


I would love to hear from you! 🙂

(NLT) Ephesians 5:25-27 “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her body and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”

Jesus is Love,







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Girl!! Get your REST!!


Lord, why does it take me so long to come back and blog!! Let me tell you something. I have missed you guys and I miss blogging more often!! I have been working on something that I will announce soon that has perhaps been taking some of my time away 🙂 Stay tuned….

So….lets hop right into it shall we?? Lets chat 🙂

Most women that I speak to are exhausted!! I’m most women by the way LOL Most of us are trying to balance EVERYTHING! The interesting part about it is that the ladies that I speak with on a regular basis don’t even have children yet and are completely worn out. I think to myself a lot what life would be life for me when I do have a husband and kids?! I feel like my life is already kind of crazy and filled to the max at times.  I work full, FULL time LOL I feel like I constantly work for my 9-5 job or for myself. I have a non-profit organization that I am passionate about and it takes time to operate. Admittedly, I don’t feel like I always have the proper amount of time to put into my non-profit organization and other projects that I’m passionate about.

With all that being said. I have truly been trying to master the art of rest and the balance that comes along with that. I use a physical calendar which helps me look at my time  weeks ahead to see what works for me and what does not work for me. My iPhone reminders are EVERYTHING mkay??! I absolutely love them! The reminders help me to manager “right now” tasks that I know I may forget if I don’t have it popping up on my phone. For example, I may set an iPhone reminder to pay a bill or even take the chicken out the freezer before I go to work. The reminders truly help me stay on task and be my memory when mine is too full LOL.

I want to give some quick tips that have helped me out lately when it comes to managing my time AND making time for myself to rest and replenish! I typically leave myself out which is not good at all. The year 2020 so far, has been a year of intentionality when it comes to my schedule.

Quick Tips:

  1. Make sure to place things that you want to do for yourself on your calendar. For example, I wanted to go by a popular cupcake shop here in Dallas, TX called “Sprinkles.” Because I know how wishy washy I can be with cancelling little things like that for myself, I wrote it on my calendar and because I wrote it down and had it pre-scheduled, I made sure to treat myself. This was a small gesture but it was necessary 🙂 I love a good sweet treat!
  2. Therapy-Find a good therapist! I feel that everyone can benefit from a great therapist!
  3. Pray….consistently and give thanks to God.
  4. Make time with your friends!! Happy Hour has been my thing lately. I will intentionally schedule a happy hour with my friends. I’m at the point in my life (and so are my friends LOL) where most things have to be scheduled in advance mkay?! LOL and I’m perfectly fine with that. I have to make sure I make time with my friends because if not, months will go by before I realize that I haven’t seen my friends in a trillion years! LOL
  5. I schedule my massages several weeks in advance! This is the only way I know it will get done. I so quick to cancel on myself of push off a self care day. BUT, if I schedule it in advance? More than likely I will do it.
  6. Pay for movies in advance! LOL again, I know if I don’t schedule it or pay for it in advance? More than likely I won’t do it. I will push it off until the movie is no longer playing in the theater.
  7. Plans trips! (I’m working on this!! This is a struggle of mine).
  8. What day is your “Sabbath”?? What day of the week do you choose not to work?? (doesn’t have to be Sunday. Choose which day works for you.) I’m working on this!! Because I work all the time! Such a bad habit!
  9. Make time for “quiet time” for me? I love to read, mediate (but not as often as I should) and rest/take naps!! I recently got a weighted blanket and my world is forever changed!! Get you one today because it will bless you!!


Even though I just listed these tips, I still struggle in the area of rest and making time for myself!! Pretty please with a cherry on top let me know some of the things you do to rest and make time for yourself. What I know for sure is that work will always be there. We can’t let life pass us by because we are always so busy!! Life is but a vapor and we must make the most of it while we are here 🙂 So, get you rest and be sure to be intentional about, well…being intentional about your rest, your purpose and your life.

Jesus is Love,


(NLT) Matthew 11:28 “Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

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The Art of Breaking Toxic Relationships.

Hello everyone!! I hate that it always takes such a long time for me to check back in!! My life has been pretty hectic to say the least!! My job has become more demanding and I am working on a project that I’m pretty excited about that has taken up a lot of my time!! I will be announcing soon :).

I wanted to share my heart on toxic relationships and the toll that they can have on all of us. I have had my share of toxic relationships. Toxicity in any form sucks the life out of you and causes you to go in circles with someone that God did not intend for you to do purpose with.  Let me say this. God does not intend for you to endure toxic relationships!! Sure, relationships have their challenges, but you shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone that is emotionally, physically or mentally abusive.  You don’t have to deal with someone who does value you or respect you! Always know and remember that! We don’t know how much time we have on this Earth! We never want to waste it by staying in a relationship with someone who brings nothing but drama.

I truly feel there is an art to breaking a toxic relationship. When I say art, I’m suggesting that there is a way to get out of a toxic relationship with grace; by God’s Grace.  Once you have made the decision to let go and to leave someone who is toxic, you will need to pray! There is no way I could’ve gotten out of some of my past relationships without prayer! You are going  to need strength to gain back your peace, and to let go of something that is so familiar. It’s funny how it can be so difficult for us to let someone go even though we know they aren’t good for us. This also applies to friendships! If you have a friend that does not have your best interest at heart, it is best to let them go. This may be difficult, because sometimes some of the most toxic friends in your life may have been your friend since elementary. We can confuse how long we have been friends with someone with how good of a friend they are to us. We can make the mistake of giving too many passes to someone because of how long they have been in our lives.

While praying, make sure you ask God to give you the strength to set boundaries!! Going back and forth with someone and still staying in contact with them isn’t good for anyone involved. Ask God to strengthen you so that you can remain strong! Ask God to remove the desire from your heart to want that person in an intimate way anymore. Make sure you pray for them. I know this is hard request, but trust me, they need prayer as well. Overtime, you will begin to notice a change in yourself.  You won’t desire that relationship anymore. Stay focused on yourself! One of the worst things you can do is run to another relationship to simply fill a void. Learn yourself and ask God to show you His purpose for your life and focus on your purpose. Once you know your purpose and you began to walk in your purpose, you will be so busy doing what God instructed you to do that you won’t have time to play games with anyone.

“We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God.  We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:9 (NLT)

Jesus is Love,



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Yoooo…… I Need A Vacation!

Hi guys!! It’s been wayyy too long since I’ve posted my thoughts! It’s been a crazy ride and I can honestly say that time has gotten away from me!!! WOW…is all I can say. This post may be a little shorter than my other posts because I forgot to charge the keyboard for my iPad…. Lord help the day as my grandmother would say.

I posted on Facebook earlier about how important vacations are for your mental health and I thought that I would go into more detail in honor of this month being Mental Health Awareness month. It so easy to get caught up in our jobs, kids and responsibilities that we don’t take time out for ourselves.

This is post is every bit for me as it is for you because I’m that person. I rarely take vacations and when I do, they are working vacations. I KNOW THIS IS HORRIBLE. I really need to make more time for myself. I truly need to schedule some time where I do nothing….nothing is so foreign to me. I haven’t done that for a long period of time in so long. I typically work so much because my job is very demanding and you can easily get behind; it’s a lot to say the least.

But what good are we without time for ourselves?? How can we continue to live in our purpose when we don’t take time to recharge??? We can’t be good to anyone else if we are not good to ourselves. We HAVE to take care of ourselves.

I recently started meditating and it was a game changer. I will meditate first and then pray. Afterwards I try to read my Bible and then go to sleep. Adding meditation to my prayer life shifts my energy back to where it needs to be. It calms be down; Keeps my anxiety in check. Meditation helps me to refocus and chill. I literally have to schedule this. Tonight I decided at 8PM I’m going to meditate and pray and that’s exactly what I did. I chose to make time for myself because I have to live with myself every day and if I’m not mentally strong then I’m no good to anyone else.

Here is OUR challenge. Within the next 6-12 months (or sooner which is better), plan a trip or do something you have always wanted to do!! Let’s make out mental health a priority because we have to. Even if you do a stay-cation in your own town for a few days. This will bring more clarity in our lives. I plan on completing this challenge even if I have to go by myself.

Seek counseling! Pray and ask God how you should recharge. Tell him that you are needing to be fueled again. He is longing to hear from you. He loves all the details about our lives. He wants to know when we are tired or worried. He wants to know when we are about to give up! He cares about how difficult our jobs can be…he cares.

The three take-aways:

1. Take a break and meditate/pray

2. Do something you desire to do

3. Seek counseling

Jesus is Love,


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The Art of Supporting

Good evening!! It’s been too long since I’ve posted! The topic that’s been on my heart lately has been, “Support.” Lets jump right in!

We live in a world where so many people are entrepreneurs which is amazing!!! God has blessed so many of us with business ideas and opportunities! With the rise of entrepreneurs has also caused a rise of critics; social media has taken criticism to another level. People have become internet experts and have opinions about everything you do and they don’t have the expertise to advise you on your craft/passion.

On top of the criticism and opinions, we experience a lack of support from those closest to us. Some people support those that are “close” to them privately and not publicly but they support people who they don’t know; funny how that works.

Do we feel that if we support someone, wish them well, purchase their products or share their post on social media, that we are doing something wrong? Do we feel that if we support someone else that we won’t shine? Or is it that we don’t feel that they are worthy of being supported? I’m not sure what it is, but we need to support each other more. For some reason, we feel that our criticism or lack of support should come before genuine support from the heart.

What is in our heart? What drives us to support someone or not support someone? What drives us to tell someone what is wrong before what is right? Everything is a heart issue. Everything. Encourage those closest to you. Support them. Buy their products, speak highly of them publicly and privately. Don’t be the person who seems them post something amazing on social media and you always send them a “private” text stating, “Congratulations,” and never share their post publicly or comment on their post; but you post and share everyone else’s post.

What people need most right now is prayer, support and encouragement. There is nothing wrong with providing helpful criticism to someone in your circle, especially if it is solicited. Use your discernment on when to give advice/criticism; it’s not always needed. We must understand that most of time it is not always our place to point out something wrong. Amen? Amen.

Jesus is Love,


1 Thessalonians 5:11 “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (NLT)

Psalm 31:24 “So be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord!” (NLT)

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Self Made…

Hey guys!!

Hope everyone is have an amazing Sunday!! I wanted to post a quick blog about the idea of being self made that I hear so often. Lets jump right in!

The definition of self made means made by oneself and having become successful or rich by one’s own efforts. I don’t know about you, but this definition sounds crazy to me! LOL I never want to come off like I did anything by myself. The idea of being self made is pompous and a lie. Everything that we have and everything that we are able to do is because of God AND the help that He sends us.

I hate that we live in a world where the words BOSS and self made are used as much as we drink water or go to sleep at night. How could we ever think that we did anything by ourselves? The crazy part is that most people don’t use this term lightly or jokingly. I actually know some people who think they are in the position they are in because of everything they did right and because of their own hard work/efforts. I’ve sat across from people who have shared their success stories with me on several occasions and they never mentioned God….

I’m going to say this and leave this right here…take it for whatever it is worth to you…..Know that everything you have and everything that you are is because God smiled on you and chose to bless you. He didn’t bless you because you were so good and because you were so sweet and so hard working….H simply blessed you because he is that kind of friend. He cares for you that much. There is nothing that you can do to earn God’s goodness towards you and His favor on your life.

We can’t afford to allow society’s view of what success is to blind us from who is behind all of our success. We must always keep our mind on Jesus. Our goal should not be to be self made but our goal should always be of service to others and to give God credit for the things he has done forever and always.

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusted in thee.” Isaiah 26:3 (KJV)

Jesus is Love,


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Friends!…How Many of Us Have Them?

Hi guys!

It’s been a minute since I blogged so I thought I would check in :). The importance of friendship has been on my heart heavy lately. Lets jump right in!

The term friend is used so lightly nowadays. We call each other sister, brother and friend just as fast as we say “hello,” and “goodbye.” Why is that? We expect more from people who we barely know and make them apart of lives when maybe they should not be there at all. We must understand the difference between a situationship (LOL Yes! situationship), friendship and an acquaintance.

A situationship is when you are “friends” with someone based on your environment. You work with them or go to church with them. You are around them due to your situation but once you are outside of the situation, you don’t hear from them as much. Now….situationships can sometimes turn into real friendships but most of the time, they may not and that is okay. It’s just important to understand the difference between a friendship and a situationship. If you are out of that situation and you don’t hear from them and they are always cancelling on you when you reach out, it may not be what you think it is.

A friendship lasts no matter the situation. They can move out of the state/country and you still keep in touch and always try to make time for each other when you all are both in the same city. You check on each other and SUPPORT each other. You support each other by praying for each other, checking on each other, showing up to events that you can go to, you like pictures on social media and share each other’s images on social medical to show your support-You support them publicly and not just privately. What I mean by that is, you buy tickets to their events and go instead of just liking it on Instagram and not going. You actually post on their page how proud you are of them and how you are excited for them instead of just sending your message via text or a critique about what they could have done better.

An acquaintance is someone that you see whenever you see LOL You may have met them at a networking event. They are cool and you always speak when you see them. You may have even met them for lunch to discuss business or future goals and partnerships; but that’s about it-remember that.

Listen! There is nothing wrong with either of these three relationships but the key is to know who belongs where and to not get them confused. I’ve even made the mistake of putting people in the wrong categories and chile… was a mess! LOL Be encouraged and ask God to send you divine connected relationships. Because everyone needs a good friend and they are so hard to come by! Trust me!

“There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

Jesus is Love,


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The Impact of Not Forgiving……PT. 2

Hey there!! For some reason, this topic of forgiveness has been on my heart lately. I posted a blog a few nights ago regarding the “other side of forgiveness.” If you have not read it, I suggest that you read it!! :). This will be a short blog, so lets jump right in!

It dawned on my today that God is not pleased and it saddens His heart that His people have such a hard time in the area of forgiveness. Think about it. How many times have you heard someone say, “Oh, I don’t fool with that person anymore,” for one reason or another. OR, we say things like “we ended on bad terms and haven’t spoken in years.”

I understand that sometimes, we have tried to reconcile with someone and they won’t allow reconciliation and they won’t respond to you and they don’t want to discuss issues; this can be very hurtful. All you can do in this case is pray for yourself (for healing) and pray for that person and move on.

BUT, we know those cases where maybe two people are being stubborn and as a result, a relationship or friendship is lost……this is what I feel makes God’s heart sad. For example, When a marriage is broken because of pride and not being forgiving. When a friendship is broken. When a mother/daughter relationship is broken. Ultimately, God’s purpose was not fulfilled. What I mean by that he when he calls two people together in marriage and they divorce ultimately over pride and not forgiving each other, they separate but also God’s purpose and plan in their marriage separates.

When someone just cuts off a friendship or relationship and their is heart hardened, the purpose is taken out of that. I believe there are needs that need to be met but will not be met because bridges have been burned from people that we truly needed because we didn’t handle their hearts right and we chose not to forgive…..This is just food for thought. Forgiveness is bigger than us.

Jesus is Love,


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The other side of forgiveness…

Hi guys! I hope everyone is having a blessed week! I wont be before you long, but something dropped in my Spirit today. Lets jump right in!!

So often, I hear people talk about FORGIVENESS. I am fully on board with forgiveness and Lord knows that I’ve had my share of situations where I had to forgive people and HELP people who hurt my heart in a way that can’t fully be articulated…..But it dawned on me, what if I was on the other side? Like what if I am the one who did the wrong doing and just decided not to apologize. Okay. Cool….But not apologizing could be causing more awkwardness and tension than necessary. And truth be told, it is causing that person to possibly hold on to something longer… a way it could be stalling forgiveness because of the hardness of another person’s heart.

So…true story….

Many years ago, I had a HEART BREAKING EXPERIENCE. I remember how mad I was and how betrayed I felt. I was so incredibly hurt to say the least. For a while I wouldn’t speak to that person and would flat out ignore them! Terrible, I know! BUT! Chile….I was just hurt. BUT! That person (sooner than later) wrote me a letter and took me out to dinner and was genuinely sorry. From that point on, I accepted the apology and the tension lifted and we never had another issue.

Now…..what if that person would have let the issue linger and not right the wrong? Yes, with prayer and time I would have gotten over it but how much longer would that situation, awkwardness and hurt have lingered?

The bottom line is this, we can help with someone forgive us if we are willing to own up to what we did wrong and sincerely apologize because lets keep 100! People and your heart knows when a person is genuine or not. Also, when we apologize to people, we have to stop saying, “I apologize for everything.” What is everything? We must pick up the phone and apologize and NOT APOLOGIZE via text!! Whew! LOL We have to stop doing that people of God.

At the end of day, regardless if someone else apologizes or not, we have to pray about and move on AND ultimately forgive them; this I know….Trust me! If there is someone you need to apologize to, call them tonight and own whatever the wrong was and be sincere…..and if you are on the opposite end of the situation, and you never receive an apology; its okay. I have learned to pray and PRAY FOR MYSELF AND FOR THAT PERSON. This is difficult to do but it must be done in order to move on with life.

Matthew 5:44 “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you.” (NLT)

Jesus is Love,


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Running Away From Yourself…

Hey guys!! I wanted to check in do a quick post!! I’ve had so much going on lately but this thought has been lingering in my spirit for some time now…The thought of “Running Away From Yourself” Lets just right in 🙂

As great as life can be, sometimes it can throw circumstances your way that can take your breath away, break your heart and leave you in a state of shock. Life can leave you with broken pieces and have you wondering how you got there. In the midst of confusion, sometimes I feel that the best thing (besides praying) would be for me to “get away.” Sometimes I feel like 2-3 month sabbatical from everything would be just what I need. If only I could get away to free my mind and get through whatever it is that I may be going through.

My oldest brother told me something that I won’t forget. He said, “You can never run away from your thoughts but you can do things to give yourself a break mentally.” In other words, you can do things that you enjoy and that “free your mind” from what you are currently facing and dealing with. My follow up question to him was, “But what happens when you complete what you enjoy and you are right back where you started?; with your thoughts, hurt and stress?” He said told me that all things change with time and that my situation would not always be the way that it is. Hmmm……so one major key is time.

Oddly enough, sometimes we feel that we don’t have time. When you are going through something, you want it to end immediately, especially issues with the heart. Let your heart get broken by someone you truly love and see how quickly you want that heartache to end. Heartache is one of the most painful aches you will ever experience; trust me, I know.

But, we must be hopeful that God has a plan and a purpose for us no matter how much it feels like he does not have a plan. He hears our prayers and knows when we cry. We must be encouraged that no matter what we go through, we will come out better! Always keep your head up and continue to pray; I can’t say this enough.

Jesus is Love,


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