I Hurt When I see Women Hurting….

Hello everyone!!

Long time no chat! I hope that all is well and everyone is keeping safe with all of the devastating hurricanes that are taking place in the Florida and the Houston, Texas area; you all are in my prayers….

I wanted to post something that fell heavy on my Spirit tonight. Tonight was my first time attending a single’s ministry “session.” I’ve listened to countless sermons, messages and advice on this single life, but I haven’t physically been to a meeting, workshop or a session regarding the topic of singleness. I was invited by a friend and I decided to go.

At first, things were cool. Various topics were being discussed about relationships, and the do’s and the don’ts. What to look out for and what to run from. Eventually, a game was initiated and various women and men told short stories about their past relationships and things they have gone through in the past; this is where it gets tricky. As I listened to the stories told by mostly women, my heart began to sink. Some of the stories were so outrageous that laughter was shared amongst the room. But what hit me most is that underlying the laughter and the jokes, a spirit of hurt viciously lingered.

I could tell that some of the women sharing their stories were truly still hurting and wanted answers to how to move forward and how to leave the hurt behind. That Spirit of hurt was familiar to me. I remember feeling just like that. I remember feeling a toxic, too much to bare type of hurt. The type of hurt to where you don’t know how you got there and why. The innocent hurt-meaning you truly did not know what you had gotten yourself into. You just knew you loved the person that you later found out never loved you; it leaves you devastated. I saw myself and how I once felt in some of those women.

In that moment, I knew more than discussing any story about past hurt, we needed prayer and for the Holy Ghost to break chains and to give us strength as women for the days to come. Hurt is hard and break up hurt? And heart hurt? Is a special type of hurt. You truly have to be strong in the Lord and lean on Him with everything in you. More than anything, single women need to know that no matter what you’ve been through, God has someone special for you. In the meantime, relax, pray, hang out with friends. Don’t hang out to be “seen” but hang out because you want to. God knows your schedule!!! He will put you and your husband together at the right time.

My short words of advice…….Love and lust can blind us and cut off our discernment so always be in prayer. When we first meet a young man, we should first ask God if he is the “one” and to cut him off if he is not. That way, we won’t waste our time; God will give you immediate signs. Also, should you find yourself in a broken place because a man broke his promise….and left….and moved on…..just breathe. Now let me say this, it’s not going to be easy, but you have got to move on. Meaning don’t stalk his social media and don’t try to stay in contact. Pray….pray and pray some more. It truly takes time to get over someone you were in love with but God is truly a healer!!! Trust me, I know!

And finally, let not our hearts be troubled due to someone’s foolishness towards us. Let us always forgive and move on. God wants to bless us with a husband! But he can’t do this when we are still entertaining the wrong person.

“Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains.” Proverbs 14:13 (NLT)

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Babbbayyy…..Anxiety is real!

  Hi guys!!  I wanted to touch on a topic that I feel most people deal with at one point or another. Anxiety is beyond real!! It can definitely impact your daily life and cause your stress levels to go way up!!   Lets chat!

SO….I realized that the older I got,  I became more and more familiar with anxiety.  I don’t seem to remember having much anxiety back in the day. But hey, life began to happen and then I found anxiety to be almost second nature.  I quickly learned and I’m still learning to keep myself calm and what triggers my anxiety the most.

Listen. Lets dig  a little deeper. If you are in a bad relationship and a man or woman is what is causing your anxiety? See. You need to let that go. I know and trust me, I understand that can be incredibly hard to do!! Lord help us but it is necessary for us to have a healthy mind space!!! More than likely, God has already shown you that you need to let someone or a certain situation go.  Obedience is key!

Learn and know what brings your anxiety levels down. I love quiet time!! I love to light a candle, pray, watch sermons from my favorite pastors and buy cupcakes LOL I do that in moderation of course!! But you get what I’m saying. Treat yourself to a massage or a movie. Journal. Go to the gym (I try to go 3-4 times a week).  Eat better!! Lets have a salad or green smoothie. Stay in church.   A good word and fellowship breaks chains!!

Whatever the case may be for you, find it and do it often. Another thing I LOVE to do is to put my iPhone on do not disturb!!! Lord! This option is Heaven sent!! Sometimes, I just need my peace. Peace is everything y’all!!! We should always be praying for peace in whatever situation we find ourselves in! Good or bad!  Find what makes you happy and most importantly what brings you peace!!

A person full of anxiety cannot fulfill God’s person for their life wholeheartedly because they are always so stressed. Lets take care of ourselves so that we can fulfill God’s assignment in our lives and hear Him clearly. Anxiety can create doubt and doubt is not of Him.

“For the despondent, everyday brings trouble; for the happy heart, life is a continual feast.” Proverbs 15:15 (NLT)

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Love.Live.Life

Hey loves!  I wanted to post a quick short blog today about something that has been pressing on my Spirit for the past couple of days!! It’s so important that in the mist of what life brings us, we need to take a deep breath and LIVE and LAUGH!!  Each day on this Earth is a gift!! Lets embrace this gift and be grateful.

To be honest, I find myself stressed out or worried about certain things. I wonder if the path that I’m on is the path that God has for me. I wonder about this and I wonder about that…..Listen…life is but a vapor!! We must enjoy this short life while we are here and take advantage of spending time with love ones and pursuing our passion. What are you passionate about?

Do you wish to start your own non-profit? Do love to sing or write? Do you enjoy playing basketball or soccer?  Whatever it is, go for it.!! If you dont exactly know what you are passionate about or what your purpose is, pray about. Ask God to reveal to you things that you don’t even know about yourself! Ask Him to shed light on your heart and what it yearns to do. Your passion could simply be to encourage people or giving! God may have blessed you with the gift of giving and you are extremely hospitable an you give sacrificially and not always out of your surplus!

Obviously, even while we are having fun, we must keep God in our focus. When we focus on Him, everything  else (in His will) will be added unto us. With that being said, take a load off! Read a book, go to the movies, take yourself out to dinner, go to the park, write a book!, join that ministry in church that God has been pressing on your spirit to join and take a walk and breathe in the fresh air!!

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33 (KJV)

Jesus is love,

Chelsea

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Should I Go?

Hello everyone!! Can you believe that it is Spring?! That’s beyond crazy to me! Time is flying and it will be Summer before you know it. Summer is my favorite time of year 🙂 It’s been on my Spirit to write a blog concerning direction.  I feel as if  sometimes we are constantly wondering what is the next step and if the last step we took was in God’s Will…Lets chat.

Life is funny. We are wrecking our brains about this and about that. When will I get married? When will I have children? Lord, when will I find the one? Is the person I’m currently with the One? Or do I need to move on? Should I propose? Should I move to find another job and Lord when will you bless me with another job? And so on and so forth….How do we find balance in knowing that God has a plan for our lives and wondering if we are actually walking in it?  How do we truly know?

The only way to know that we are walking in His purpose for our lives is to listen to the Holy Spirit and meditate on His Word daily.  We must trust that even though we may not understand what God is doing, He still has a plan. Even when we don’t feel like He is working in our lives, He is.

So when we ask ourselves these heavy questions that start with Should I? Or Could I? We need to pause and see how God really feels about what we are doing. That “Gut” feeling that telling you to do right is always God. He would never lead you down a path of destruction….Listen to His voice.

For those of you wondering about anything? A new car, a new job or opportunity, make sure that you are doing your part. Faith without works is dead. You can’t say you are ready for your husband, but you keep a random person that you know you have no intentions of marrying in your bed.  You can’t say want another job, but you won’t update your cover letter and resume.  I’m a firm believer in “doing your part.”  We must stay focused and continue to do what we can in our flesh and God will do supernaturally what we can’t. Amen? Amen!

“There is gold, and a multitude of rubies: but the lips of knowledge are a precious jewel.” Proverbs 20:15 (KJV)

 

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

 

 

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When can I walk in my Purpose?!

Heyyyyyy guys!! Long time no chat!  I instantly felt compelled to write a blog!!  This blog will be about Purpose.  What do you do when you know your purpose but God has not allowed you to fully walk into your purpose yet?  Lets chat!

I’m currently going through a season where I know what God has called me to do and I would love to it full time!!  I would love to be able to do what God has blessed me to do. I would love for my passion to be my paycheck. But the reality is…that’s not my reality. Of course I can do what I love to do but I’m not able to do it full time right now. I’m sure that there may be some singers, songwriters, preachers, teachers, authors, actors and actresses who would love to live out their passion/calling fulling time. I mean, who wouldn’t want to do what they love to do and get paid for it?!

It can be even more challenging when your 9-5 is just not cutting it! You feel as if you are wasting your time! You say, to yourself “All I want to do is what I want to do.” You say, I know this job isn’t for me! I just need an opportunity to walk into my purpose. It can be frustrating to do something everyday that isn’t fulfilling and it sucks the energy out of you because it’s not what you feel that you should be doing.

I want to encourage you and myself that God moves when He decides to move! He knows the talent and calling that he placed inside of your heart. He knows how you long to do what you were called to do. Now….with this being said, God also knows our motives. He knows why we really want to do what we do. Do we give to be seen? Or do we give because we truly just want to be a blessing? Do we sing for applause? Or are we singing the Gospel in hopes that someone will see Jesus in us and be saved! That’s what it’s all about! Kingdom Building! Lets make sure out motives are always pure.

Sometimes we can be so caught up in the talent God has blessed us with that we forget to use his Gift that He blessed us with for His Glory! It should never stop being about Him. We should always bless His Holy name in whatever we do. We need to always do a “heart check” on ourselves.

Just know that when God gets ready to use you? No Devil in Hell can stop you! We must be patient and be willing to do whatever God wishes for us to do! He is so able and faithful.  God’s timing is everything.  We must always remember that it’s all about His timing an not ours; be encouraged.

“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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There is power in rest…

Good evening!

My prayer is that this post reaches you and that it speaks to your heart.  Today’s topic is REST!!

I don’t know about you, but my weeks can be very challenging, busy and mentally draining. Sometimes, my weekends are just as draining!  It’s easy to feel that as women, especially women who are actively involved in ministry that we can’t say no.  We run ourselves to the ground doing everything for everyone else without recharging ourselves.  We work overtime, we are superwoman at home and we go to church 2-3 times a week.  Chileeee…we do it ALL!!

Can I be honest? Some of this things that are stopping us from getting our rest (mentally) are people that are draining the life out of us.  People can still be playing active roles in our lives that we should have let go of a long time ago.  Maybe it’s that “best” friend that we know does not have our best interest at heart. Maybe it’s the “boyfriend” that fills our heart with uncertainty with no stability.  Unhealthy relationships can wear you out mentally and having you physically tired all the time.

Listen. We all have that “gut feeling” that tells us when we need to sit down somewhere, take vacation time, a nap or leave that young man alone. Yes ladies, I’m speaking to us. And let me clarify, that “gut feeling” is the Holy Spirit.  God knows what is best for us and who is best for us. He sees us and cares about us more than we could ever know or process. In this holiday season-rest, relax, reflect and PRAY!! Find hobbies that you enjoy, give as the Lords leads you and continue to have faith.

Once we sit down, and take out time for ourselves, we will be healthier and will be motivated to serve and do as the Holy Spirit guides us. God has told some of us to do something and we cant even act on it because we are so worn out and stressed! We must take care of ourselves first and untimately rest in Him. May God bless you and continue to keep you 🙂

“Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us.” KJV Romans 8:37

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

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Singleness and Depression…

Hi everyone!!

I pray that everyone has had an awesome 4th of July!!  I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted a blog!! My last blog stated that I would be doing another series on singleness.  This second series that I’m doing on this topic will be a mini series; the first topic will be singleness and Depression.  Let’s dive right in shall we?

Now, please understand that I’m not saying that being single is a death sentence or that it’s automatically associated with depression.  But I am saying that in the process of waiting for your Adam, you can get discouraged.  You can feel like everyone is getting married but you.  You may feel that everyone is having children but you…right?  Or you may feel that the guy you are dating may be the one but you feel that he is taking too long to propose. This will be discussed in another post 🙂

Whatever the case may be, these feelings can have you feeling down or that God does not have someone just for you.  Let me tell you, He does!!  You may feel that you’re off track or that “I should be been married by now.  Or I should’ve had children by now.  I should’ve found the one by now.”  Trust me, I know the feeling.

We must always rest in the fact God has someone for us! We can never be mad when something does not work out with and ex! Only GOD knows what kind of bullet we were dodging!!!!!  Trust that God has a reason for everything that he does even if we don’t understand.  Also, look at it this way.  Can’t no devil in Hell steal what God has for you.  If that was your husband then he would’ve been your husband.

Oh yeah, let’s also keep in mind that God will NEVER send you someone else’s husband or boyfriend!!  I understand that sometimes we as believers may go through seasons of loneliness and this feeling evokes different actions from different people but we must know that what God has for us is for us and that he wouldn’t send some one that’s taken, right? Right.

While waiting for our Adam, we must keep our minds on Christ.  Keep busy. Go to church.  Hang out with friends. Pray.  Go to Bible study.  Our main focus in life should not be to get our Adam but to ultimately gain a stronger relationship with Christ!!  God wants to prepare of for our Adam.  In order to do that, we need to focus on Christ so that He can mold/change of as He sees fit.  He longs for our time and attention.  When you least expect it and when you’re not even looking, He will send you your Adam 🙂

During this season, don’t get down or depressed because you feel that time is passing you by. Things will happen in the right season!!

 

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

 

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