Where’s your heart?

Hi guys!! I  pray everyone has had a blessed week!!  This week has been crazy busy!!  Especially today!!  I was so swamped at work!  Let me share a story that totally convicted me this week….Here we go 🙂

I was talking to one of my co-workers about pre-marital  sex.  She told me  that she knew a couple who decided  not to have sex before marriage.  They were a young couple at the time-about 22 years old.  The guy was very adamant about not having sex before marriage.  One day, the pressure became to much for them.  They decided to go to the courthouse that day and get married….immediately following their official  marriage, they went back to their apartment and had sex.  Their main reason for getting married so soon was so that they could have sex…

The first thought  that came to my mind was wow…..What was the point?  Their heart was not in it.  God knows our intentions and  why we truly do something.  If your main reason for marrying someone in a short amount of time is to have sex with them…then that’s not right.  Yes, sex is a part of marriage but goodness there is so much more to marriage than sex.  God brings two people together for a purpose and plan.  Yes pleasing each other intimately is what married people are suppose to do but that’s not the purpose of marriage…so I ask you; where is your heart?  

Ask yourself why you really do what you do.  Are you with a girl or a guy who has expressed their desire to wait until they are married for sex and you want to challenge yourself to see how long it will  take you to get into their pants?  Are you telling your current partner that you want to wait until marriage but you are  out sleeping around while they are waiting patiently?  Or are you the one that doesn’t feel any conviction at all about jumping in bed with someone?  Again…where’s your heart?

It’s time out for games.  We must continue  to  die to our flesh and say yes to the Holy Spirit.  Remember that if you “slip up”  pray and repent-get back up again.  Of course God knows that we are going to sin but goodness he didn’t send His son down for us to stay in sin!  We need to not only serve God by going to church on Sundays or  giving to the church, we must be committed with our bodies as well.  This indeed may be a challenge but  nothing is immpossible.

Romans 6:14-15 “For sin shall not have  dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. What then? Shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid.

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

So…Born Again Virgin

Hi guys and happy Sunday to you!!  Church was awesome this morning 🙂  My pastor preached from Philippians 4:11 and the title of his sermon was, “I know the Secret.”  The secret is to keep walking with Christ no matter what season you are in.  Continue to walk by faith and not by sight….I encourage you all to read the book of Philipans. Now lets talk about the topic at hand!

Currently, I am watching the show, “Born Again Virgin,” that comes on the network TV1.  When I saw the previews, I said to myself, Hmmm…this should be good.  I feel that the show is very refreshing in its content.  It’s showing a different side to women.  All women are not trying to jump in another man’s bed.  Some women are trying to be intentional about staying out of another man’s bed!  We don’t see this side of women being shown often on televison, if at all.

The show is about a group of three women who are all at different points in their lives.  They live togther as friends and support/respect each other.  One particular woman of of the group has decided to be a Born Again Virgin.  She has decided that she is no longer going to have sex with another man unti she is married.  Let’s just say she was looking for a change.

I like how the show shows the real struggles of a woman who has made this decision and the various challenges she goes through.  The last episode discussed a woman’s boundaries in her Born Again world.  How far should she go? How far is too far?  This really interested me because I feel that all of us who have made this decision have asked ourselves the golden question….What are my boundaries?  

Now, we must understand that Christ will get His own set of convictions for our relationships.  Some couples may say they don’t kiss.  Others may say we kiss but we dont stay at each other houses past 8PM; each conviction is different.  But trust and believe, we all need boundaries.  We must also understand that the more we think we can kiss, touch, spend the night and do whatever else, we are simply playing with fire.  Don’t let satan fool you into dibbling an dabbling into a little bit of this and a little bit of that…..humph! Again, we are playing with fire.

I plan to keep following the show to see where it will go.  I would love for you all to put your comments below on some good practices and boundaries on not having sex with your boyfriend until marriage. Also, if you have watched show, tell me what you think? Is it realistic?  Or not?

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea

Singleness and A Woman’s Most Prize Possession…

Hi guys!! 🙂 I hope everyone’s week has started off great!!  It is so cold here in Dallas, TX.  I am already waiting for the Summer to arrive! LOL  I wanted to do a blog tonight on A Woman’s Most Prize Possession.  This will be the last blog with our singleness series.  The Holy Spirit put this blog on my heart and I felt this would be a good stopping point 🙂

Society will tell you that your most valuable possession is your body and what you can do for someone sexually.  Society will tell you, “Girl, if your man starts to act up, don’t sleep with him and see what he will do!!”  I’m here to tell you that this mentality is not the right mentality to have.  Your greatest possession and not your sex, it’s your time.

I don’t know about you, but I would rather have a guy get more upset because he no longer gets to spend time with me, rather than to get upset with me because he can’t have sex with me.  Time is the most valuable thing that you can share with someone simply because it’s a gift to you from God and you don’t know how long you have here on this Earth.

Think about it.  Anytime you give your time to someone, you are giving them a piece of your life that can’t be bought nor sold.  There is no way that you can buy time.  So once those 5 years are gone that you spent with a man that you knew was not good for, there is no way that you can get that time back….be very careful who you spend your time (life) with.

I remember I was talking to a guy off and on for years.  One day he decided to break things off with me.  I was heart broken and I explained to him that he took something that I would never be able to give back-My time.  He didn’t care that my heart was broken.  He didn’t care about my heart.

Ladies, I will tell you that you can find healing in Christ when your heart is broken.  I’ve been so heart broken in my pass from a man that I didn’t have an appetite, cried daily and felt like I’d been hit so hard emotionally.  God delivered me from that heart ache.  But, in order to be delivered, I had to want to be delivered and with deliverance comes change.  You have to want to let that so called man go.  You have to want better for yourself.  The choice is yours.  The Lord is begging for your attention so that He can heal you; he is just waiting on you to grab His hand 🙂

Also, God wants us to honor our bodies.  We must watch what we put into our bodies, on our bodies and what comes out our mouths.  We must keep the perspective that these bodies are not ours and the Holy Spirit dwells within us.  We must go to God daily and ask him to help us in areas of our lives where we need it most.  Jesus died and rose again for our sins.  But, he did not do this so that we could continue to live in sin.

Apostle Paul said in Romans 6:1-2, “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?  God forbid.  How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?” (KJV)  God forbid we continue to live in sin!!  There is a constant war going on between the flesh and the spirit; we must continue to fight…. Know your worth.

Jesus is Love,

Chelsea